Jesus Christ is my God!
Issued 25.11.2002
Marriage
Marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman. Falling in love without a covenant leads easily to cohabitation. There is no family without a covenant. Therefore living together without a marriage is a crime against family. Entering a marriage happens through the covenant of hearts and not through the words of a marriage formula. In the same way entering the covenant of God happens through the faith of heart and not through the event of a baptizing.
Is the time of wedding over?
A question to an unmarried couple: What kind of celebration you had before you moved living together? It was like your wedding because the essential meaning of wedding is to celebrate the moving together. Therefore how could a cohabiting couple celebrate their wedding after they have already moved together? There is no sense in celebrating the launching of a ship that has ploughed seas for many years. The time of wedding is over for them who already live together.
What kind of celebration you had before the first sexual intercourse? Was it preceded by a public or private celebration? Did you then promise to be faithful to each other? Wedding is a celebration where a couple publicly promises lifelong faithfulness to each other. A sexual intercourse without the promise to stay as the own of the other is sexual abuse. Those who have had a sexual intercourse before wedding cannot celebrate a wedding night anymore, because they already have experienced it.
However many cohabiting couples finally celebrate their wedding day. Some couples have told that their relationship turned worse after the wedding. It is quite natural that they can feel so. The wedding day preaches to the cohabiting couple that the time, they have lived together before the wedding, has been wrong. However, if they don't regret their cohabitation, but rather the opposite, the wedding causes internal conflict to them.
The more in detail they follow the traditional wedding ceremonies the greater judgement they get for their relationship. All wedding ceremonies pronounce a fact that the marriage started not until this moment. These ceremonies confirm that their cohabitation has been wrong. Will a bridegroom carry his bride over the threshold to the home where they have lived together for a long time?
Cohabitation lacks a covenant. They should enter into the covenant and give themselves to each other and arrange an honest wedding that shows they regret their cohabitation.
A question to an unmarried couple: What kind of celebration you had before you moved living together? It was like your wedding because the essential meaning of wedding is to celebrate the moving together. Therefore how could a cohabiting couple celebrate their wedding after they have already moved together? There is no sense in celebrating the launching of a ship that has ploughed seas for many years. The time of wedding is over for them who already live together.
What kind of celebration you had before the first sexual intercourse? Was it preceded by a public or private celebration? Did you then promise to be faithful to each other? Wedding is a celebration where a couple publicly promises lifelong faithfulness to each other. A sexual intercourse without the promise to stay as the own of the other is sexual abuse. Those who have had a sexual intercourse before wedding cannot celebrate a wedding night anymore, because they already have experienced it.
However many cohabiting couples finally celebrate their wedding day. Some couples have told that their relationship turned worse after the wedding. It is quite natural that they can feel so. The wedding day preaches to the cohabiting couple that the time, they have lived together before the wedding, has been wrong. However, if they don't regret their cohabitation, but rather the opposite, the wedding causes internal conflict to them.
The more in detail they follow the traditional wedding ceremonies the greater judgement they get for their relationship. All wedding ceremonies pronounce a fact that the marriage started not until this moment. These ceremonies confirm that their cohabitation has been wrong. Will a bridegroom carry his bride over the threshold to the home where they have lived together for a long time?
Cohabitation lacks a covenant. They should enter into the covenant and give themselves to each other and arrange an honest wedding that shows they regret their cohabitation.
Marriage is a covenant
Above all marriage is a covenant. Nowadays falling in love has been stressed so much that people have almost totally forgotten the concept of a covenant. Wedding is a celebration of a covenant. Entering into a covenant is a greater thing than falling in love. It is better to enter into a covenant with the person whom you love, but the lack of love cannot void a marriage.
According to the Bible a marriage is as old as the creation of man. Jesus witnesses: "At the beginning of creation God made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one." Mark 10:6-8 Notice that in the wedding neither love, nor the words of a priest or a judge are essential, but entering into a covenant.
Tendency towards contracting a covenant has been built in man. God has designed it when He created man and His plans are working well. In a wedding a new family is established with the support of the old families. Also they, who know nothing about the Bible, have carried out the same practice, because it is not based on a religion but on the existence of family. Living together without covenant is a serious crime against family.
Marriage is the base of a family. The attitude to family determines the attitude to marriage and vice versa. It belongs to the marital attitude that a young man wants to be a husband and a young woman wants to be a wife. Just this attitude has changed especially in the western culture. Man and woman want to be independent and they don't want that the other one owns them. They want to be partners to each other not spouses.
The status of a family has been hit down on purpose. Because people rebel against God, children have been taught to rebel against their parents and wives against their husbands. Permissive upbringing and free sex life reveal people's will to to be free from the governing of God.
Man and woman got their own roles when they were created. If they give up their natural position as a man and a woman, it leads them also to abandon marriage. Cohabitation has become so popular because many lack the attitude which would lead them to a marriage.
Above all marriage is a covenant. Nowadays falling in love has been stressed so much that people have almost totally forgotten the concept of a covenant. Wedding is a celebration of a covenant. Entering into a covenant is a greater thing than falling in love. It is better to enter into a covenant with the person whom you love, but the lack of love cannot void a marriage.
According to the Bible a marriage is as old as the creation of man. Jesus witnesses: "At the beginning of creation God made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one." Mark 10:6-8 Notice that in the wedding neither love, nor the words of a priest or a judge are essential, but entering into a covenant.
Tendency towards contracting a covenant has been built in man. God has designed it when He created man and His plans are working well. In a wedding a new family is established with the support of the old families. Also they, who know nothing about the Bible, have carried out the same practice, because it is not based on a religion but on the existence of family. Living together without covenant is a serious crime against family.
Marriage is the base of a family. The attitude to family determines the attitude to marriage and vice versa. It belongs to the marital attitude that a young man wants to be a husband and a young woman wants to be a wife. Just this attitude has changed especially in the western culture. Man and woman want to be independent and they don't want that the other one owns them. They want to be partners to each other not spouses.
The status of a family has been hit down on purpose. Because people rebel against God, children have been taught to rebel against their parents and wives against their husbands. Permissive upbringing and free sex life reveal people's will to to be free from the governing of God.
Man and woman got their own roles when they were created. If they give up their natural position as a man and a woman, it leads them also to abandon marriage. Cohabitation has become so popular because many lack the attitude which would lead them to a marriage.
Cohabitation
Many consider cohabitation a test marriage, where they want to test how their partner fits to them. So they claim that without sex it is not possible to test the suitability of a spouse candidate. Is it true? Actually they test nothing, but are already using what they only claim to test.
They have drifted into a relationship that is like a marriage but without wedding. Would their relationship be corrected if they would make it official? The amen of a priest or the phrases of a judge don't create a marriage. Only the change of the attitude can correct the lack of a covenant. Take the attitude of the covenant. Allow the other one to own you. Ask if you may own him or her. Contract the covenant!
Stop living together with a person, who is not your own spouse. Although you would be very much attached to your lover, the attachment itself is not love. It is love that you treat him or her well. Contracting the covenant is the evidence of love. Do not accept the offer to go living together with a person, who has not promised to be your own spouse. Why would you give your heart to be broken? Why would you spoil your opportunity for a happy family life?
Is the covenant valid, if a couple living together has contracted a covenant privately, although they have not got officially married? It is obvious that the covenant always begins at the moment when it is said privately "I will", and not then when it is said publicly. Therefore their covenant is already then valid, although a marriage doesn't begin until the wedding. In the marriage ceremony they only repeat, what they had agreed privately.
Many consider cohabitation a test marriage, where they want to test how their partner fits to them. So they claim that without sex it is not possible to test the suitability of a spouse candidate. Is it true? Actually they test nothing, but are already using what they only claim to test.
They have drifted into a relationship that is like a marriage but without wedding. Would their relationship be corrected if they would make it official? The amen of a priest or the phrases of a judge don't create a marriage. Only the change of the attitude can correct the lack of a covenant. Take the attitude of the covenant. Allow the other one to own you. Ask if you may own him or her. Contract the covenant!
Stop living together with a person, who is not your own spouse. Although you would be very much attached to your lover, the attachment itself is not love. It is love that you treat him or her well. Contracting the covenant is the evidence of love. Do not accept the offer to go living together with a person, who has not promised to be your own spouse. Why would you give your heart to be broken? Why would you spoil your opportunity for a happy family life?
Is the covenant valid, if a couple living together has contracted a covenant privately, although they have not got officially married? It is obvious that the covenant always begins at the moment when it is said privately "I will", and not then when it is said publicly. Therefore their covenant is already then valid, although a marriage doesn't begin until the wedding. In the marriage ceremony they only repeat, what they had agreed privately.
Marriage Formula
The Catholic Church has ruined the reputation of a marriage by making it into a sacrament. In the same way as the sacrament of baptism has made people to take up a superstitious attitude towards the gospel of God the sacrament of marriage has made people to take up a superstitious attitude towards marriage. They think that salvation was moved to a person in some mysterious way through the ceremony of baptism. In the same way they think that in a church wedding God's power would affect in the couple so that they would be joined together. Woe how great darkness!
In fact the salvation comes to the heart of a person through faith and not through the water of baptism. In the same way getting married happens through the covenant of hearts, and not through the words of the marriage formula.
The salvation comes true in the life of a believer, when he in his heart contracts the covenant with Jesus and confesses publicly to be His own. A marriage comes true in the life of a couple, when they in their hearts contract the covenant between each other and publicly engage themselves to be each other's own.
A marriage can be valid, although there is no record in the books of the authorities of the government. On the other hand in the registers of the government some couple can be married, but actually they are not. Many respect the state god so much that they believe a marriage starts and ends according to the judgements of a court. Also this is great darkness. Making a marriage official affects only the human laws concerning a marriage, but a marriage itself cannot be enacted by a human law. It is a law of nature.
The Catholic Church has ruined the reputation of a marriage by making it into a sacrament. In the same way as the sacrament of baptism has made people to take up a superstitious attitude towards the gospel of God the sacrament of marriage has made people to take up a superstitious attitude towards marriage. They think that salvation was moved to a person in some mysterious way through the ceremony of baptism. In the same way they think that in a church wedding God's power would affect in the couple so that they would be joined together. Woe how great darkness!
In fact the salvation comes to the heart of a person through faith and not through the water of baptism. In the same way getting married happens through the covenant of hearts, and not through the words of the marriage formula.
The salvation comes true in the life of a believer, when he in his heart contracts the covenant with Jesus and confesses publicly to be His own. A marriage comes true in the life of a couple, when they in their hearts contract the covenant between each other and publicly engage themselves to be each other's own.
A marriage can be valid, although there is no record in the books of the authorities of the government. On the other hand in the registers of the government some couple can be married, but actually they are not. Many respect the state god so much that they believe a marriage starts and ends according to the judgements of a court. Also this is great darkness. Making a marriage official affects only the human laws concerning a marriage, but a marriage itself cannot be enacted by a human law. It is a law of nature.
Marriage law of nature
God has built in man and woman the ability to form a pair. The power that comes up in this forming is downright frightening. That power creates the bond from which only the death can release. "Becoming one flesh", mentioned by Jesus, is a fact in practice. When a married couple divorces they have to notice that one doesn't become two whole ones, but two halves. A person, who would like to change the spouse, hopes that the process would work backwards in the same way as when getting married. He tries to make one into two again.
Man has learned to apply many laws of nature. As it's well known they are applied either for good or bad purposes. Devastation is facing for the earth because man cannot apply laws of nature in a correct way. Between man and woman there acts a power the misuse of which destroys more than an atom bomb.
What is that nuclear physics like that forms this pair, about which it is said: "And the two will become one flesh"? There are the two levels, covenant and sexuality. Sex inside a covenant forms a good pair. Sex outside a covenant forms a bad pair. Sex without a covenant destroys as an atomic bomb. It pollutes widely and for a long time. The power that inside a covenant holds a family together brings up breaking forces outside a covenant. "The atomic power" of fornication drives the sick economy of the world using families as nuclear fuel.
The need of sexual joining expresses that man also has a deeper need to be one with another person. Even the best marriage cannot satisfy this need of unity. It can come true only in contact with God. The Paradise is not only a beautiful garden, but it is a place, where so perfect unity affects between two persons that it can be said that two equals one. "He who unites himself with the Lord is one with Him in spirit." 1Cor.6:17 However a good marriage creates an atmosphere of a lovely family, which describes to us the atmosphere of God's heaven. There cannot be a happy family without a true marriage.
God has built in man and woman the ability to form a pair. The power that comes up in this forming is downright frightening. That power creates the bond from which only the death can release. "Becoming one flesh", mentioned by Jesus, is a fact in practice. When a married couple divorces they have to notice that one doesn't become two whole ones, but two halves. A person, who would like to change the spouse, hopes that the process would work backwards in the same way as when getting married. He tries to make one into two again.
Man has learned to apply many laws of nature. As it's well known they are applied either for good or bad purposes. Devastation is facing for the earth because man cannot apply laws of nature in a correct way. Between man and woman there acts a power the misuse of which destroys more than an atom bomb.
What is that nuclear physics like that forms this pair, about which it is said: "And the two will become one flesh"? There are the two levels, covenant and sexuality. Sex inside a covenant forms a good pair. Sex outside a covenant forms a bad pair. Sex without a covenant destroys as an atomic bomb. It pollutes widely and for a long time. The power that inside a covenant holds a family together brings up breaking forces outside a covenant. "The atomic power" of fornication drives the sick economy of the world using families as nuclear fuel.
The need of sexual joining expresses that man also has a deeper need to be one with another person. Even the best marriage cannot satisfy this need of unity. It can come true only in contact with God. The Paradise is not only a beautiful garden, but it is a place, where so perfect unity affects between two persons that it can be said that two equals one. "He who unites himself with the Lord is one with Him in spirit." 1Cor.6:17 However a good marriage creates an atmosphere of a lovely family, which describes to us the atmosphere of God's heaven. There cannot be a happy family without a true marriage.
The Wedding of the Lamb
Getting into God's family means getting to the Paradise. Marriage reminds us of the covenant between God and man. Both the covenants are holy. Would not you want to feel an outsider, when the family of God assembles, would you? Jesus describes its unity: "I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: I in them and you in me. May they be brought to complete unity." John 17:22-23 Notice that Jesus speaks here nothing about the merging of church organisations, but about the unity of hearts.
God's congregation is the Bride of the Lamb. Now she patiently waits for the wedding day. Sometimes this engagement time can be hard for a believer, but it is worth waiting for and staying faithful to Jesus. What kind of life will it be for the Wife of the Lamb after the wedding? I would like to experience it.
Getting into God's family means getting to the Paradise. Marriage reminds us of the covenant between God and man. Both the covenants are holy. Would not you want to feel an outsider, when the family of God assembles, would you? Jesus describes its unity: "I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: I in them and you in me. May they be brought to complete unity." John 17:22-23 Notice that Jesus speaks here nothing about the merging of church organisations, but about the unity of hearts.
God's congregation is the Bride of the Lamb. Now she patiently waits for the wedding day. Sometimes this engagement time can be hard for a believer, but it is worth waiting for and staying faithful to Jesus. What kind of life will it be for the Wife of the Lamb after the wedding? I would like to experience it.
The Bible version used in references is NIV