Jesus Christ is my God!
Issued 26.04.1998 Last update 01.06.2008
Do not divorce your spouse!
Marriage is a natural force that you should respect because of your own happiness. Consider carefully with whom you will be united sexually, for only death will break that bond. You cannot surrender yourself to God's grace before you first died together with the law.
To unite and to depart
There are agreements between people which can be established and broken off without great pains. However it is well known that a divorce is a painful experience for the most of people. This matter alone proves that marriage is more than an agreement between two people.
If a man and a woman give themselves sexually to each other, a force begins to affect between them which binds them together. This power is a force of nature and it cannot be changed with the laws of people.
If you want to get rid of your spouse, you are in trouble. It was easy to unite yourself with your spouse, but the divorce hurts your soul very deeply. The human marriage laws have deceived you. They gave you the impression that it is as easy to divorce as to get married.
Many who have divorced want to get rid of their spouse completely. They don't realize what is the force they are fighting against. They have to develop a hard shell over their pain so that they could put to silence the feelings of their heart. What if you accepted the fact that he/she is your spouse for as long as you live?
Deserting your spouse is an attitude of your heart. If you close your heart from your spouse when you still live together, it can be the beginning of the divorce process. If you adopt the attitude towards your spouse that "he or she is my own and I am his or her own for as long as we live", you will not desert your spouse no matter what happens. Instead if you regard a divorce as a possibility to end your marriage, you may desert your spouse for a very minor reason.
There are agreements between people which can be established and broken off without great pains. However it is well known that a divorce is a painful experience for the most of people. This matter alone proves that marriage is more than an agreement between two people.
If a man and a woman give themselves sexually to each other, a force begins to affect between them which binds them together. This power is a force of nature and it cannot be changed with the laws of people.
If you want to get rid of your spouse, you are in trouble. It was easy to unite yourself with your spouse, but the divorce hurts your soul very deeply. The human marriage laws have deceived you. They gave you the impression that it is as easy to divorce as to get married.
Many who have divorced want to get rid of their spouse completely. They don't realize what is the force they are fighting against. They have to develop a hard shell over their pain so that they could put to silence the feelings of their heart. What if you accepted the fact that he/she is your spouse for as long as you live?
Deserting your spouse is an attitude of your heart. If you close your heart from your spouse when you still live together, it can be the beginning of the divorce process. If you adopt the attitude towards your spouse that "he or she is my own and I am his or her own for as long as we live", you will not desert your spouse no matter what happens. Instead if you regard a divorce as a possibility to end your marriage, you may desert your spouse for a very minor reason.
Is it allowed to divorce for fornication or for adultery?
Virginity has a great significance for the power of marriage. So that the full power of marriage would appear the bride and the bridegroom must be virgins. The full power means the full happiness of marriage. Through the ages this has been noticed and therefore parents have demanded their young people to keep their virginity till their weddings. If you don't appreciate virginity, you don't respect marriage either.
If it was revealed after a wedding that a spouse was not a virgin, this was a valid reason to cancel the marriage. For this situation Moses gave the certificate of divorce. According to this the deceived bridegroom could desert his bride because of fornication. Moses says about the deed that gives right to desert a wife, he "found some uncleanness in her". When someone lost virginity outside a marriage he says that it "has been done a disgraceful deed". How could adultery be included in this phrase "some uncleanness", because an adulterer and an adulteress were under sentence of death?
"The man who commits adultery with another man's wife, he who commits adultery with his neighbor's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress, shall surely be put to death." Le.20:10
Later the Jews expanded the certificate of divorce to also include the cases in which a spouse committed adultery. Instead of stoning adulterers to death with stones a certificate of divorce was given them. They forgot that Moses allowed to divorce because of fornication and not because of adultery. The certificate of divorce given by Moses was the cancellation document of marriage, because it could be used only immediately after the wedding or during the time of engagement.
In the gospel according to Matthew there are two Bible passages where Jesus answers the question about the certificate of divorce given by Moses. In those texts He restores the original condition of the certificate of divorce that is: a divorce is allowed only because of fornication. These passages have been translated incorrectly in many Bible versions so that the word fornication is replaced with the word adultery. The King James version translates these passages right.
"It has been said, 'whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.' But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except fornication (porneia) causes her to commit adultery (moikheia); and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery (moikheia)." Mt.5:31-32
A premarital intercourse is fornication, in Creek porneia. Adultery is in Creek moikheia. Thus the original Bible text says: "except fornication".
Many believers of our times have read these words of Jesus in the same way wrongly as the Jews of Jesus' times had read the words of Moses. According to the Jewish practice a husband could divorce his wife and marry another, if the wife had committed adultery. Nowadays many Christian communities follow the same practice.
There is one issue that confirms that Jesus meant a premarital intercourse and not adultery with the word porneia. This Bible passage is a part of the Sermon on the Mount where He points out what has been said before. He then says: "But I say to you". It would be quite strange, if this case had no difference between the words of Jesus and the words of Jewishness? "It has been said that give a certificate of divorce to a spouse who committed adultery, but I say to you in the same way."
Jesus says that "whoever divorces his wife for any reason except fornication causes her to commit adultery". Modern man believes the decisions of authorities concerning his marriage and could therefore say to Jesus. "Hey man, if I divorce my wife for any reason, I don't cause her to commit adultery! After the divorce she is free from the bond of the marriage and can therefore marry any man she wants without committing adultery." People think that a divorce given by the authorities dissolves the marriage, but Jesus still regards the divorced people as married couples.
A divorce, except for a premarital intercourse, doesn't dissolve the marriage and therefore Jesus says that divorcing causes the divorced one to commit adultery when someone else marries the divorced. "Whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery". If Jesus thought the marriage of the divorced had dissolved, He would not call a new marriage of the divorced adultery. A person who marries a divorced one can commit adultery only if the divorced one still is the spouse of someone else.
Virginity has a great significance for the power of marriage. So that the full power of marriage would appear the bride and the bridegroom must be virgins. The full power means the full happiness of marriage. Through the ages this has been noticed and therefore parents have demanded their young people to keep their virginity till their weddings. If you don't appreciate virginity, you don't respect marriage either.
If it was revealed after a wedding that a spouse was not a virgin, this was a valid reason to cancel the marriage. For this situation Moses gave the certificate of divorce. According to this the deceived bridegroom could desert his bride because of fornication. Moses says about the deed that gives right to desert a wife, he "found some uncleanness in her". When someone lost virginity outside a marriage he says that it "has been done a disgraceful deed". How could adultery be included in this phrase "some uncleanness", because an adulterer and an adulteress were under sentence of death?
"The man who commits adultery with another man's wife, he who commits adultery with his neighbor's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress, shall surely be put to death." Le.20:10
Later the Jews expanded the certificate of divorce to also include the cases in which a spouse committed adultery. Instead of stoning adulterers to death with stones a certificate of divorce was given them. They forgot that Moses allowed to divorce because of fornication and not because of adultery. The certificate of divorce given by Moses was the cancellation document of marriage, because it could be used only immediately after the wedding or during the time of engagement.
In the gospel according to Matthew there are two Bible passages where Jesus answers the question about the certificate of divorce given by Moses. In those texts He restores the original condition of the certificate of divorce that is: a divorce is allowed only because of fornication. These passages have been translated incorrectly in many Bible versions so that the word fornication is replaced with the word adultery. The King James version translates these passages right.
"It has been said, 'whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.' But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except fornication (porneia) causes her to commit adultery (moikheia); and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery (moikheia)." Mt.5:31-32
A premarital intercourse is fornication, in Creek porneia. Adultery is in Creek moikheia. Thus the original Bible text says: "except fornication".
Many believers of our times have read these words of Jesus in the same way wrongly as the Jews of Jesus' times had read the words of Moses. According to the Jewish practice a husband could divorce his wife and marry another, if the wife had committed adultery. Nowadays many Christian communities follow the same practice.
There is one issue that confirms that Jesus meant a premarital intercourse and not adultery with the word porneia. This Bible passage is a part of the Sermon on the Mount where He points out what has been said before. He then says: "But I say to you". It would be quite strange, if this case had no difference between the words of Jesus and the words of Jewishness? "It has been said that give a certificate of divorce to a spouse who committed adultery, but I say to you in the same way."
Jesus says that "whoever divorces his wife for any reason except fornication causes her to commit adultery". Modern man believes the decisions of authorities concerning his marriage and could therefore say to Jesus. "Hey man, if I divorce my wife for any reason, I don't cause her to commit adultery! After the divorce she is free from the bond of the marriage and can therefore marry any man she wants without committing adultery." People think that a divorce given by the authorities dissolves the marriage, but Jesus still regards the divorced people as married couples.
A divorce, except for a premarital intercourse, doesn't dissolve the marriage and therefore Jesus says that divorcing causes the divorced one to commit adultery when someone else marries the divorced. "Whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery". If Jesus thought the marriage of the divorced had dissolved, He would not call a new marriage of the divorced adultery. A person who marries a divorced one can commit adultery only if the divorced one still is the spouse of someone else.
God's marriage law
The laws of nature are things that God has planned. The law of gravity is the force that crushes those who don't respect it. In the same way the marriage law is the force with which you had better live in harmony.
Many think that death dissolves only so called Christian marriages, as if the marriages of others had not been joined together by God. They forget that Jesus says marriage is a created thing thus concerning all people since God created man. "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female', and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." Mt.19:4-6
God operates as the joiner in the marriages of all human beings. That joining force ends when one of the spouses dies.
"The woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband." Ro.7:2
"A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes." 1Co.7:39
When the Jews heard these words of Jesus, "what God has joined together, let not man separate", they were surprised and asked: "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" Mt.19:7
They understood that Jesus does NOT accept a certificate of divorce. They would not have asked in this way, if they had understood that Jesus accepts it. In the gospels according to Mark and Luke there are the sentences in which Jesus doesn't explain to whom Moses allowed to give a certificate of divorce, but He openly says how this matter is without the commands of Moses.
"Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery." Mr.10:11-12
"Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery." Lu.16:18
Do you think that Jesus doesn't mean 'whoever' when He says 'whoever'? If you misread what Jesus said about divorce in Matthew, you cause a conflict in the words of Jesus. He has not said in this way: "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, except he who divorced her because of her adultery."
After all it is also divorcing when a certificate of divorce is given due to premarital intercourse. If Jesus accepted even that divorce, He could not say 'whoever divorces'. Actually Jesus didn't accept the certificate of divorce at all though He restored the original meaning of the certificate of divorce of Moses. Therefore He can say 'whoever'.
"He said to them, 'Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.'" Mt.19:8
When Jesus says "from the beginning it was not so" He refers to the time when God created man. Jesus thinks that you do wrong even if you divorce your spouse because you noticed after the wedding that your spouse was not a virgin. Be not hard-hearted but forgive her or him. In this way you understand that Jesus' word 'whoever' really means everyone who divorces.
The laws of nature are things that God has planned. The law of gravity is the force that crushes those who don't respect it. In the same way the marriage law is the force with which you had better live in harmony.
Many think that death dissolves only so called Christian marriages, as if the marriages of others had not been joined together by God. They forget that Jesus says marriage is a created thing thus concerning all people since God created man. "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female', and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." Mt.19:4-6
God operates as the joiner in the marriages of all human beings. That joining force ends when one of the spouses dies.
"The woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband." Ro.7:2
"A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes." 1Co.7:39
When the Jews heard these words of Jesus, "what God has joined together, let not man separate", they were surprised and asked: "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" Mt.19:7
They understood that Jesus does NOT accept a certificate of divorce. They would not have asked in this way, if they had understood that Jesus accepts it. In the gospels according to Mark and Luke there are the sentences in which Jesus doesn't explain to whom Moses allowed to give a certificate of divorce, but He openly says how this matter is without the commands of Moses.
"Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery." Mr.10:11-12
"Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery." Lu.16:18
Do you think that Jesus doesn't mean 'whoever' when He says 'whoever'? If you misread what Jesus said about divorce in Matthew, you cause a conflict in the words of Jesus. He has not said in this way: "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, except he who divorced her because of her adultery."
After all it is also divorcing when a certificate of divorce is given due to premarital intercourse. If Jesus accepted even that divorce, He could not say 'whoever divorces'. Actually Jesus didn't accept the certificate of divorce at all though He restored the original meaning of the certificate of divorce of Moses. Therefore He can say 'whoever'.
"He said to them, 'Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.'" Mt.19:8
When Jesus says "from the beginning it was not so" He refers to the time when God created man. Jesus thinks that you do wrong even if you divorce your spouse because you noticed after the wedding that your spouse was not a virgin. Be not hard-hearted but forgive her or him. In this way you understand that Jesus' word 'whoever' really means everyone who divorces.
Crisis of divorce
It is good not to divorce for any reason, but only if the spouse committed adultery. In practice however this attitude makes divorcing possible for everybody. When was adultery committed? Jesus defines it in this way: "You have heard that it was said to those of old, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Mt.5:27-28
If it is allowed to divorce because of adultery of the spouse, then the previous word of Jesus would give all the wives of the world a permission to divorce their husband.
Some claim that "adultery dissolves a marriage in the same way as death." It is true that it brings pain to the relationship and violates the unity about which it is said "one flesh", but death however is a different thing. He or she who commits adultery violates himself or herself as much as his or her spouse. In that pain we either want to be reconciled and to forgive or we want to separate that one flesh into two whole parts again. However God has not created an inverse process of marriage. In a divorce from one flesh it can become only two halves missing each other.
Many divorced seek a new spouse to medicate their pains. A half seeks as suitable "prosthesis" as possible to be able to feel whole again. A godless one does what he or she wants but those who are Jesus' own should remain faithful to the words of their Lord. How is it, are you His own or are you your own? In these situations your love to Jesus is tested. He says: "If anyone loves me, he will keep my word." Joh.14:23
We can be separated from our spouse for many different reasons and not only for adultery of our spouse. It doesn't dissolve our marriage, if our spouse doesn't live with us anymore. One who was deserted and loves Jesus remains living alone, because he wants to keep the words of Jesus: "Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife." 1Co.7:10-11
The Lord Jesus says to a spouse who has departed from his/her spouse: "Remain unmarried!" Why? Therefore because only the death of the spouse gives a possibility to be married to another.
It is good not to divorce for any reason, but only if the spouse committed adultery. In practice however this attitude makes divorcing possible for everybody. When was adultery committed? Jesus defines it in this way: "You have heard that it was said to those of old, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Mt.5:27-28
If it is allowed to divorce because of adultery of the spouse, then the previous word of Jesus would give all the wives of the world a permission to divorce their husband.
Some claim that "adultery dissolves a marriage in the same way as death." It is true that it brings pain to the relationship and violates the unity about which it is said "one flesh", but death however is a different thing. He or she who commits adultery violates himself or herself as much as his or her spouse. In that pain we either want to be reconciled and to forgive or we want to separate that one flesh into two whole parts again. However God has not created an inverse process of marriage. In a divorce from one flesh it can become only two halves missing each other.
Many divorced seek a new spouse to medicate their pains. A half seeks as suitable "prosthesis" as possible to be able to feel whole again. A godless one does what he or she wants but those who are Jesus' own should remain faithful to the words of their Lord. How is it, are you His own or are you your own? In these situations your love to Jesus is tested. He says: "If anyone loves me, he will keep my word." Joh.14:23
We can be separated from our spouse for many different reasons and not only for adultery of our spouse. It doesn't dissolve our marriage, if our spouse doesn't live with us anymore. One who was deserted and loves Jesus remains living alone, because he wants to keep the words of Jesus: "Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife." 1Co.7:10-11
The Lord Jesus says to a spouse who has departed from his/her spouse: "Remain unmarried!" Why? Therefore because only the death of the spouse gives a possibility to be married to another.
Marriage and a new marriage
In the Bible there are many passages where marriage describes the covenant between God and man. Therefore the holiness of marriage has such a great meaning. All people are in the covenant of the law with God starting from their birth. The commands of God have been written into the hearts of all babies. Most of people have wanted to be separated from this covenant. They have felt God as an oppressive spouse whom they want to get rid of.
Paul compares coming to faith with a new marriage that was made possible by the death of the spouse: "The law has dominion over a man as long as he lives. For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man. Therefore, my brethren, you also have become dead to the law through the body of Christ, that you may be married to another - to Him who was raised from the dead, that we should bear fruit to God." Ro.7:1-4
As the perfect man Jesus represents for us the law of God, through which we are in the covenant with God. When Jesus died on Golgotha, our spouse died and we got the possibility to "be married to another - to Him who was raised from the dead." So Jesus is both the old and the new spouse. Which of them do you belong to?
The Old Covenant can be changed to the New Covenant only if the covenant companion dies. Thus the same reason changes a marriage to a new marriage as changes the covenant of the law to the covenant of grace.
Many have received Jesus without participating in His death. That means their heart has not experienced this: "you also have become dead to the law through the body of Christ". You cannot get from under law to under grace "by divorcing law", but by dying from it in Jesus Christ.
Have you given your life to Jesus, although you have not first received His life through His death? Then you have "married another man", the up raised Jesus, although "your man", Jesus you know according to the flesh, still lives.
If you decided to be a believer by divorcing law and by getting married to grace, is it no wonder if you also believe you can get a new spouse, although your current spouse still lives! Those, who know Jesus only according to the flesh, believe that Jesus would allow the divorced to be remarried.
In the Bible there are many passages where marriage describes the covenant between God and man. Therefore the holiness of marriage has such a great meaning. All people are in the covenant of the law with God starting from their birth. The commands of God have been written into the hearts of all babies. Most of people have wanted to be separated from this covenant. They have felt God as an oppressive spouse whom they want to get rid of.
Paul compares coming to faith with a new marriage that was made possible by the death of the spouse: "The law has dominion over a man as long as he lives. For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man. Therefore, my brethren, you also have become dead to the law through the body of Christ, that you may be married to another - to Him who was raised from the dead, that we should bear fruit to God." Ro.7:1-4
As the perfect man Jesus represents for us the law of God, through which we are in the covenant with God. When Jesus died on Golgotha, our spouse died and we got the possibility to "be married to another - to Him who was raised from the dead." So Jesus is both the old and the new spouse. Which of them do you belong to?
The Old Covenant can be changed to the New Covenant only if the covenant companion dies. Thus the same reason changes a marriage to a new marriage as changes the covenant of the law to the covenant of grace.
Many have received Jesus without participating in His death. That means their heart has not experienced this: "you also have become dead to the law through the body of Christ". You cannot get from under law to under grace "by divorcing law", but by dying from it in Jesus Christ.
Have you given your life to Jesus, although you have not first received His life through His death? Then you have "married another man", the up raised Jesus, although "your man", Jesus you know according to the flesh, still lives.
If you decided to be a believer by divorcing law and by getting married to grace, is it no wonder if you also believe you can get a new spouse, although your current spouse still lives! Those, who know Jesus only according to the flesh, believe that Jesus would allow the divorced to be remarried.
Why have you forsaken me?
It is a terrible experience to be deserted! Who is able to comfort a person who is deserted by his/her spouse? God is the Comforter of a guiltless and the Savior of a guilty one. Jesus is able to calm down the storms of your guilty heart, if you confess your crimes to Him. If only you would raise your eyes from your divorce hell to Jesus who experienced a greater desertion than you.
What is the greatest pain in Hell? Maybe it is the pain Jesus felt on the cross, when he cried: "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" If God forsakes us, it is much bitterer to us than to go through a divorce. Just imagine it how you would feel, if God said these words to you: "Depart from Me, you cursed, into the everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels." Mt.25:41
Good God doesn't want you to go through that desertion. Therefore He prepared for you the salvation in Jesus Christ. God doesn't like to desert anybody. For that reason he also hates divorce. "The LORD has been witness between you the wife of your youth; with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? .... Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of your youth. For the LORD God of Israel says that He hates divorce." Mal.2:14-16
Stop and think about this vision in your spirit: Jesus cries out to God, who hates desertion. My God why have you deserted me?! You can answer to the question of Jesus: "OH, JESUS, GOD HAS FORSAKEN YOU FOR MY SINS!"
Jesus Himself will turn to you and answer to your cry. Although He died, the death could not own Him, because He had never committed any sin. Therefore you can meet Him who loved you by dying for you. You can hear in your spirit His words: "Take heart, your sins are forgiven. The punishment was upon me so that you would have peace with God."
Jesus is able to make you happy in a marriage or alone, but never in a sin. Living with Jesus is righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.
It is a terrible experience to be deserted! Who is able to comfort a person who is deserted by his/her spouse? God is the Comforter of a guiltless and the Savior of a guilty one. Jesus is able to calm down the storms of your guilty heart, if you confess your crimes to Him. If only you would raise your eyes from your divorce hell to Jesus who experienced a greater desertion than you.
What is the greatest pain in Hell? Maybe it is the pain Jesus felt on the cross, when he cried: "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" If God forsakes us, it is much bitterer to us than to go through a divorce. Just imagine it how you would feel, if God said these words to you: "Depart from Me, you cursed, into the everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels." Mt.25:41
Good God doesn't want you to go through that desertion. Therefore He prepared for you the salvation in Jesus Christ. God doesn't like to desert anybody. For that reason he also hates divorce. "The LORD has been witness between you the wife of your youth; with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? .... Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of your youth. For the LORD God of Israel says that He hates divorce." Mal.2:14-16
Stop and think about this vision in your spirit: Jesus cries out to God, who hates desertion. My God why have you deserted me?! You can answer to the question of Jesus: "OH, JESUS, GOD HAS FORSAKEN YOU FOR MY SINS!"
Jesus Himself will turn to you and answer to your cry. Although He died, the death could not own Him, because He had never committed any sin. Therefore you can meet Him who loved you by dying for you. You can hear in your spirit His words: "Take heart, your sins are forgiven. The punishment was upon me so that you would have peace with God."
Jesus is able to make you happy in a marriage or alone, but never in a sin. Living with Jesus is righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.
The Bible version used in references is NIV